We should use stern words and a raised voice rarely, only at the appropriate time. When the time is right, we must use it if there's a need. Normally we should speak gently, politely and with care. We use words of gentleness, respect, encouragement and care, which is the normal and ordinary path. Using stern words and a raised voice is the extreme path.
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